If You Seek Amy..

As the mom of a high need baby i rarely get half a second to myself. I feel as if Baby Bug has a magnet attached to her butt and I have the opposite magnet in my hip. Even in bed she is snuggled into me throughout the night. And during the work day she (or I) sometimes manages to find a way for me to visit her in class and snuggle.

With all of this physical attachment I am typically done with being touched by the end of the day. So what does this mean for my relationship with my husband? How do we keep the spark alive when I'm exhausted constantly, possibly haven't done more than a quick rinse in the shower in a few days, and I only get a couple of hours to myself if I'm lucky? Sex after having a baby is hard and even more so if you bed share.

The first few months can be challenging because your body is healing. If you had a c-section your body has a major surgery to recover from. If you delivered vaginally you may have tearing or cutting to heal from. And just plain giving birth does crazy things to a body!

Bottle feeding mommas are lucky in that we don't have the added stress of worrying about leaking and sore breasts when trying to get back in the saddle (why is this a saying, I'm not sure, but it works...). Nursing mommas have my respect in dealing with that added layer, but maybe it isn't as big an issue as I'm assuming.

For me it took months to feel like myself enough to want to be physically affectionate. Fooling around and kissing came easy, but full on sex was just not appealing. I found my husband as attractive as ever, even more so now that he was such a good daddy, but I didn't quite feel human until about 7 months postpartum.

Thankfully I have a very patient husband who got a bit frustrated at times, but also understood why I didn't want to be touched and why I didn't have the energy to even think a sexy thought let alone do sexy things.

New mommas who find you don't want to be touched or do any touching once the baby is down for the night, you are not alone! Find other ways to be intimate with your spouse. Make each other laugh, find humor in the every day of your new life, and most of all remind each other how you made it to this point in life together.

Grocery shopping at Kroger while Gran and Pa watched Baby Bug!